Paul Schmidt, Ph.D.

Louisville, Lexington, and Shelbyville, KY

Dr. Schmidt is a licensed clinical psychologist, 

    a pro-marital relationship counselor,

    a nationally certified sex addiction therapist,

    plus an author, speaker, and life coach.

        Specialties

Individual, Marital, and Family Counseling

Life Coaching, which may be done live,

    by phone, or by webcam interviews

Conflicts of Conscience and Belief

Sexual Performance Disorders

Single Adult Relationships

Twelve Step Recovery

Psychological Testing 

Sexual  Addiction

Career Guidance

Public Speaking

Marital Infidelity

For each of the items above, 

he has done at least two of the following:

special research, teaching, training, or published writing.

Mission Statement

To inspire more positive attitudes,

         relationships and experiences

   See also "Values and Beliefs" at left

Although I have other offices in Lexington and Shelbyville, my main office is in Louisville (see directions tab at left and down for how to get to any of my offices).  It has been designed for your comfort, privacy, and convenience.   I believe you'll especially like the following features of this office:  

·        Just a two-minute drive from exit 17 off  I-64 at Blankenbaker

·        A ground floor office with relaxing views, and windows that open for fresh air

·        Insurance statements done within a week,  or on your way out

·        Daytime phone calls almost always returned within an hour

I also have a Shelbyville office that I use on Tuesdays.  Here I rent space from my local church for thirty years, the First Christian Church of Shelbyville.  (In 2006, I rejoined the church of my family and my youth, First Presbyterian.  I am not on staff with First Christian, but I remain a friend of the church.)  The church staff does not know who I see there, as the entrance is a private one at the rear of the church.

My newest office is in Lexington, where I work on Fridays.  This office is in yet another setting, a charming old house downtown, where I am on staff at the Interfaith Counseling Center (see www.interfaithcounselingcenter.org).  Here I enjoy wonderful fellowship with my colleagues, formally in case conferences, and informally just hanging around the center. 

Email address:            drpaulschmidt@earthlink.net

Louisville Office Address                    

    Monday, Wednesday, and Thursday

115 N. Watterson Trail,  #101

           Middletown, KY  40243-1381

 502 244 4407

                Fax:  502 244 9743

 

Lexington Office Address   Friday

Interfaith Counseling Center

    (for information, 859 258 2060)

240 Rodes Avenue 

Lexington, KY  40508                                

               to book appointments call

                502 633 2860   (my cell)

 

Shelbyville Office physical address               

                Tuesdays

          First Christian Church 

          1000 Eminence Pike

          Shelbyville, KY  40065

        (502) 633 2860  (cell phone)

 

Shelbyville home mailing address                       

570 Jeptha Knob Road

          Shelbyville, KY  40065-9428

          

        

        For more information about my services as a life coach, check the tab for Life Coaching.  

        For more information about my services as a speaker, an author, or as a life coach, see my other website:  www.mylovelifecoach.com.  This website is primarily for  single adults.

        For information on my book, Growing Your Love Life, see below, or click HERE.  

 

In 2007, my book Growing Your Love Life was published by BookSurge in Charleston, SC.  This publisher is owned by Amazon.com, and the book can be ordered there.  More about this:

 

Growing Your Love Life:

Vital Balance in Single Adult Relationships

           Only a person who’s recently been dating can speak straight to the gut of the single reader.  The gospel is presented here for the first time in the frank language of single adults out together on a Saturday night.  The author speaks from his personal experience dating several women first as a young man, and then again after his divorce, which confirmed the practical value of these ideas in real life.  Moreover, as a psychologist, he brings a complementary professional authority, from listening to the stories of fifteen hundred singles he has worked with, and thousands more married people looking back with some regret on their courtship.  

           The book’s central metaphor, its underlying assumption, and its main lesson are all new.  Growing Your Love Life’s principal picture of romantic relationships compares them to fruit-bearing plants growing in careful ecological balance through their various seasons.  The primary idea is that the flesh (ego) can be inspired to become not so much at war with the spirit as delighting in it, as the flesh is designed to reach its full liveliness only in balance with the spirit’s leadership.  And the book’s main idea is good news indeed:  it shows for the first time that physical affection can grow gradually throughout courtship when it is pegged to the couple’s growing levels of commitment and personal disclosure, so that all three progress in tandem, and reach a new high together on the wedding day.

        What is the book’s message?     The central metaphor and main idea are fresh, that love relationships are living creations inspired by God, and that their commitment, personal disclosure, and physical affection grow optimally in careful balance with each other.  Unlike other books, it shows how expressing physical affection in this new way, without inhibiting or indulging it, helps not only to save sexual intercourse for marriage, but also to enrich and henhance it. 

 To whom is the book written?     The target audience is single adults, and the counselors, pastors, and  teachers who work with them. 

 What else is new here?     My approach has been field-tested in my counseling of 1500 singles, my research with 800 people throughout North America, and my own dating experiences as a divorcee.

            No previous book has been so friendly to both traditional values for premarital abstinence and the reader’s desire to enjoy life and preserve romance.  Growing Your Love Life’s approach to petting builds self-control, and harmonizes Christian authors previously at odds on the subject.   

What topics can you speak about?    I can speak about single adult relationships, or a variety of other topics.  A complete list of speaker topics can be found at the Services button.

            As today’s single adults yearn for freedom and self-fulfillment yet struggle to honor the conservative wisdom of their elders, this book and author bring a new message of practical hope for those in love, and those still looking for it.

 

                    Last Updated: 12/12/2009