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How I Live

  DOWN-SIZING AND SIMPLIFYING MY LIFE: FINDING THE BEST THINGS IN LIFE ARE FREE   At midlife, I had been building and launching both my family and my career for over 20 years.  Yet I reached a point where I couldn’t pay my bills or bond with my family.  I was stressed out from trying to make ends meet.  My business supported ten employees and counselors, but during its last …Read More

How I Live: Are the Best Things in Life really Free?

  NATURAL QUIET AND SIMPLICITY INSPIRE ACTIVE INVOLVEMENT August 2019   At midlife, I had been building and launching both my family and my career for over 20 years.  I was stressed out from trying to make ends meet.  My business supported employees and counselors, but during its last years, I reached a point where I couldn’t make ends meet, so we went under.  When I had fulfilled all my …Read More

Communities and Wisdom Streams

MY FIVE COMMUNITIES AND WISDOM STREAMS             Whatever is universally true will come down through a wisdom stream into the communities where I live.  Each community speaks its own language of truth.  I have lived and learned in each of these communities for most of my life.  I vet my facts and principles by learning to see them at work in all five communities.  Therefore, …Read More

Communities and Wisdom Streams

MY FIVE COMMUNITIES AND WISDOM STREAMS  Christian faith and biblical wisdom — I continue as anI continue as an active elder and teacher in the Presbyterian church in which I was raised as a fifth generation member.   I have taught at the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary, spent 30 years as a teacher and elder in the Disciples Christ tradition, remained active in a home-based couples Bible study group since …Read More

What Might Healthy Drinking Look Like?

  ARE THERE HEALTHY WAYS TO DRINK ALCOHOL?   Researchers keep finding that those whose alcohol consumption is one glass of red wine most days, and only that, have a longer lifespan due to fewer heart problems.  I find that interesting. I wonder if it’s the little bit of wine that helps the heart, or maybe something else, or maybe both.  I imagine the people who can drink that way …Read More

Selfish Grandparent, or Healthy?

ARE YOU SELFISH AS A GRANDPARENT? by Dr. Paul Schmidt             A client recently shared with me a very helpful sermon he had heard from his pastor, Brian Tome at Crossroads Church in Lexington.  It helped me as a grandparent, and it made me think about the various styles of grandparenting I have heard described in my office.             The sermon contrasted five ways to distinguish a patriarch grandfather from …Read More

Romans 14 on What is Clean

  Romans 14 as Applied to Marital Lovemaking   Let’s say that one of us wants to do something together sexually that our partner considers dirty or gross.  This does not apply to behaviors that are unsafe, painful, forceful, or degrading (such as spanking, vulgarities, or verbal insults).  If one of us has prayed about it and believes this activity is a gift from God to us both, the other …Read More

Genuine Intimacy in Marriage and Faith

Genuine Intimacy in Marriage and Faith The simultaneous experience of vulnerability and safety is not found exclusively in marriage.  The apostle Paul felt that people could be closer to God and to those they loved if they were not burdened with a spouse and children at home (see his extremely personal confession in the entire seventh chapter of his first letter to the Corinthians).  There is obvious truth in this, …Read More