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Wellness and Personal Growth

These articles are for any reader interested in enhancing personal growth and well-being.

Communities and Wisdom Streams

MY FIVE COMMUNITIES AND WISDOM STREAMS             Whatever is universally true will come down through a wisdom stream into the communities where I live.  Each community speaks its own language of truth.  I have lived and learned in each of these communities for most of my life.  I vet my facts and principles by learning to see them at work in all five communities.  Therefore, …Read More

The Best Things in Life are Free

DISCOVERING WEALTH IN HARD TIMES: THE BEST THINGS IN LIFE ARE INDEED FREE Experts know what research has found:  in lean economic years, and in hard times emotionally, those who know how can discover wealth like they have never known.  And the wealth is not found so much during the hard times as inthe hard times. Those times hit me in midlife.  I couldn’t pay my bills, and I was …Read More

Selfish Grandparent, or Healthy?

ARE YOU SELFISH AS A GRANDPARENT? by Dr. Paul Schmidt             A client recently shared with me a very helpful sermon he had heard from his pastor, Brian Tome at Crossroads Church in Lexington.  It helped me as a grandparent, and it made me think about the various styles of grandparenting I have heard described in my office.             The sermon contrasted five ways to distinguish a patriarch grandfather from …Read More

Turning Your Unhealthy Relationships Around

  REVERSING UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS It seems to me that most Americans have one or more people somewhere in their family or friends that they just can’t get along with.  The way it feels is like, “I just don’t feel comfortable around them.  I can’t be myself.  They make me feel and act crazy, so I prefer to avoid them.” To create and maintain healthy relationships with our friends and family …Read More

Help for Financial Disorders

  STRUGGLING WITH MONEY AND WORK DISORDERS: HOARDING, GAMBLING, UNDER-EARNING, BINGE-SHOPPING, AND WORKAHOLICS   by Dr. Paul Schmidt   Forty years ago, some research I was doing proved that people with upper-upper income levels tend to live their lives in some ways very much like people with lower-lower incomes.  Both groups were preoccupied with money and work issues, and these hang-ups kept both groups from having close, comfortable relationships. With the …Read More

Managing Chronic Pain

MANAGING CHRONIC PAIN:  STOCKING YOUR TOOL BOX For the first time in my life last winter, I let pain whip me.  I panicked in an ER that wasn’t diagnosing or treating me.  I fought the pain and in my own eyes, made a big baby out of myself.  All that energy I put into pushing against what I couldn’t control (the pain and the ER) went right into the pain.  …Read More

Defiance of Medical Compliance

ARE YOU IN DEFIANCE OF MEDICAL COMPLIANCE?   Has your doctor told you that you are making yourself sick, that your pain or disability will continue to get worse until you change your lifestyle?  Perhaps you have had trouble complying with doctor’s orders about alcohol, cigarettes, street drugs, prescription pills, physical therapy, losing weight, getting exercise, eating a balanced diet, or changing your high-stress lifestyle. If you read the rest …Read More

Marijuana: Is it Doing me more Harm than Good?

Marijuana: Thoughts on its Use, Abuse, and Legalization by Paul Schmidt, Ph.D.   I have never really had a position or opinion on marijuana, and in recent weeks I have grown weary of this ignorance.  To prepare my thoughts on this subject, I have done three things.  First, I have obtained professional training as a certified addictions specialist from the International Institute for Addiction and Trauma Professionals.  Secondly I have …Read More

How to Quit Smoking

HOW TO QUIT SMOKING  Wise people have had lots of trouble with nicotine.  Mark Twain said, “Giving up smoking is the easiest thing I’ve ever done in my life.  I ought to know.  I’ve done it a hundred times.” Sigmund Freud died of a cancerous jaw caused by smoking cigars.  He was clearly aware of how his smoking caused and aggravated his condition, but he was unable to control his …Read More

Emotional Intelligence: How is Yours?

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE:   How does Yours Stack up? Like mental intelligence, emotional intelligence is a combination between inborn giftedness (temperament) and learned abilities (acquired skill sets). It is easier to learn if we didn’t inherit an extreme emotional disposition, and if we have had healthy role models, or chosen them for ourselves. The theory and research do not provide a single clear picture for what emotional intelligence is, but I …Read More