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Wellness and Personal Growth

These articles are for any reader interested in enhancing personal growth and well-being.

Overwhelmed with Problems right now?

A TOOL KIT FOR SOLVING LIFE’S PROBLEMS   The Chinese written language is marvelously colorful.  Their words are illustrated by little sketches or diagrams.  The Chinese character for danger is a sketch of a scary scene, and their word for opportunity is naturally a more hopeful drawing.  When these two characters are put on top of one another, it is the Chinese word for crisis, or turning point.  It means …Read More


GROWING YOUNGER ON THE INSIDE WHILE YOUR BODY IS AGING ON THE OUTSIDE At seventy-two, I am less and less interested in the exterior of people’s lives – what their bodies, clothes, houses, vacations, or social media images look like.  I pay more attention now to how their eyes twinkle, how their voice dances, how their laugh breaks out across a room, whether both children and adults enjoy their company.  …Read More

Get Your Mood Shot     

  Fight off Depression from Winter Cold, Long Nights, and Holiday Stress The winter crud that climbed into me last year sat into my sinuses and didn’t leave for two months.  So this Friday I’m getting my flu shot.  And to prevent Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) and  the holiday burn-out blues,  I’m going to give myself some powerful preventive medicine.   If you want to inoculate yourself against a mood …Read More

How I Live: Are the Best Things in Life really Free?

  NATURAL QUIET AND SIMPLICITY INSPIRE ACTIVE INVOLVEMENT August 2020 At midlife, I had been building and launching both my family and my career for over 20 years.  I was stressed out from trying to make ends meet.  My business supported employees and counselors, but during its last years, I reached a point where I couldn’t make ends meet, so we went under.  When I had fulfilled all my obligations, …Read More

Selfish Grandparent, or Healthy?

ARE YOU SELFISH AS A GRANDPARENT? by Dr. Paul Schmidt             A client recently shared with me a very helpful sermon he had heard from his pastor, Brian Tome at Crossroads Church in Lexington.  It helped me as a grandparent, and it made me think about the various styles of grandparenting I have heard described in my office.             The sermon contrasted five ways to distinguish a patriarch grandfather from …Read More

Turning Your Unhealthy Relationships Around

  REVERSING UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS It seems to me that most Americans have one or more people somewhere in their family or friends that they just can’t get along with.  The way it feels is like, “I just don’t feel comfortable around them.  I can’t be myself.  They make me feel and act crazy, so I prefer to avoid them.” To create and maintain healthy relationships with our friends and family …Read More

Help for Financial Disorders

  STRUGGLING WITH MONEY AND WORK DISORDERS: HOARDING, GAMBLING, UNDER-EARNING, BINGE-SHOPPING, AND WORKAHOLICS   by Dr. Paul Schmidt   Forty years ago, some research I was doing proved that people with upper-upper income levels tend to live their lives in some ways very much like people with lower-lower incomes.  Both groups were preoccupied with money and work issues, and these hang-ups kept both groups from having close, comfortable relationships. With the …Read More

Managing Chronic Pain

MANAGING CHRONIC PAIN:  STOCKING YOUR TOOL BOX For the first time in my life last winter, I let pain whip me.  I panicked in an ER that wasn’t diagnosing or treating me.  I fought the pain and in my own eyes, made a big baby out of myself.  All that energy I put into pushing against what I couldn’t control (the pain and the ER) went right into the pain.  …Read More

Defiance of Medical Compliance

ARE YOU IN DEFIANCE OF MEDICAL COMPLIANCE?   Has your doctor told you that you are making yourself sick, that your pain or disability will continue to get worse until you change your lifestyle?  Perhaps you have had trouble complying with doctor’s orders about alcohol, cigarettes, street drugs, prescription pills, physical therapy, losing weight, getting exercise, eating a balanced diet, or changing your high-stress lifestyle. If you read the rest …Read More